It’s normal to face setbacks, but don’t let them bring you down. Build resilience and develop mental strength so that you’ll be better equipped to cope with stress in times of difficult situations instead. Cultivating resilience is a breeze with these three tips.
We've all been there: after a crazy day at work, we get home, plop on the sofa, turn on the TV, and rip open an XL bag of
One frenzied feasting session later, we're left with an empty bag, oily fingers, and a feeling of guilt — we were supposed to be eating healthier!
From there, it's easy to spiral into self-loathing. Stop! If there's one thing to remember from this article, it's this:
don't beat yourself up if you slip up.
The journey to good mental health isn't easy, and we're bound to face setbacks along the way — we're only human.
What can we do then? Let's find out how we can develop resilience and stay positive during tough times and pick ourselves up after we fall.
When dealing with setbacks, we can handle it by acknowledging that setbacks have both negatives and positives, and to focus on the learnings.
Say you were supposed to go for a morning run but didn't because you were too tired.
Don't beat yourself up or blame yourself for being lazy. Instead, look at the bright side: you're up early, which means you get a head start on the day.
And you've got the whole day ahead of you: there's definitely time to squeeze in a workout later in the day. You can always jog in the evening or make up for it with a gym session during lunch.
Being optimistic can also help develop problem-solving skills. Optimism helps you focus on the possibilities instead of the problem, making it easier for you to think up a solution.
When you're faced with a setback, it's normal to think that the situation is worse than it actually is.
Let's look at our
keropok example. Perhaps you've been sticking to a balanced, moderate diet for the past month before that one slip-up, keeping to sensible portions, healthy snacks, and the occasional indulgence.
Objectively speaking, that one night of bingeing is not the end of the world!
So, acknowledge that you
did eat more than you intended, learn from the experience and move on. Analyse what went wrong and focus on what you can improve on.
For example, stop stocking up on
keropok (you can't eat what you don't have), and have a plan for the next time you find yourself in a stressful situation. Instead of mindlessly munching in front of the TV as a coping mechanism, call up family and friends for a quick chat.
And don't take setbacks personally — bingeing doesn't make you “weak”, and it doesn't mean you've “failed”. You are more than what you eat (or do).
When faced with a setback or problem, it's often a good idea to relax and take a break. Give your body and mind a chance to recharge and refresh.
After recharging your batteries, you'll have more energy to overcome obstacles and face problems.
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