Death of a loved one can be a source of stress in your life.

How Are You Dealing with Stress and Anxiety?

Do you have trouble concentrating? Are you always worrying?

Do you feel anxious such that your hands tremble and your palms get sweaty?

These are all signs of stress. You can control stress and not let it control you!

What Is Stress?

Stress is the body's response to any physical or emotional changes in life. This response includes the release of a hormone, adrenaline, in the body. Adrenaline causes an increase in heart rate, breathing and blood sugar levels. It also diverts the blood flow from your digestive system to your muscles (e.g. leg muscles).

This response prepares you for "fight or flight". Therefore, you will feel more alert. We all experience stress as we cope with daily events. Daily demands such as rules, responsibilities, decisions, changes, relationships, illness and money can cause stress.

Stress can give life some spice and excitement. Positive stress helps you to cope with problems that might arise. On the other hand, living under very stressful conditions for long periods of time may harm your health, your relationships, and your enjoyment of life.

What Are the Causes Of Stress?

Both positive and negative life events can lead to stress. Common causes or sources of stress in our lives could include:

Major life changes:

  • Death of loved ones
  • Accidents
  • Legal issues
  • Relocation
  • Debt
  • Illness
  • Marriage
  • Pregnancy
  • New job
  • Divorce
  • Unemployment

Environmental events:

  • Excessive noise
  • Traffic jams
  • Time pressure
  • Competition
  • Health epidemic


How Stress Affects Us Differently

Everyone reacts and copes with situations differently and thus we experience stress to different levels of intensity. Your body sends out various physical, mental, behavioural and emotional warning signs of stress.

Physical signs of stress:

  • Headaches, migraine, stomach aches
  • Muscle tension
  • Stomach ulcers
  • Fast heartbeats
  • Sleep disruption
  • Loss of appetite or overeating
  • Sweaty palms
  • Trembling
  • Chronic fatigue

Emotional signs of stress:

  • Anxiety and being bad-tempered
  • Excessive worrying, moody
  • Sadness, fear
  • Feeling inadequate

Mental signs of stress:

  • Poor concentration
  • Forgetfulness
  • Lack of confidence

Behavioural signs of stress:

  • Acting in a defensive, aggressive or impulsive manner
  • Nervous habits (e.g. stammering or biting nails)
  • Loss of interest in activities
  • Avoidance of tasks
  • Easily distracted
  • Withdrawing from social activities
  • Drinking or smoking excessively

How Can Stress Affect Our Health

Long-term stress exposes our body constantly to the effects of adrenaline and will lead to many health problems:

  • decreased immunity levels, thereby increasing our chances of getting colds and other illnesses
  • worsening of asthmatic conditions
  • increased blood pressure that will increase the risk for stroke and heart disease and even kidney problems
  • digestive problems like indigestion, constipation or even diarrhoea
  • depression, nervous breakdown or mental illness

How to Manage Stress

Some people have a negative way of coping. They take drugs, consume excessive alcohol, smoke, binge on food and injure themselves. These only mask the stress they feel, harm their health and even cause emotional and financial burden to their family. We would not be able to get rid of stress altogether, but we can learn to reduce stress or manage it at a level that we can handle. Here are some stress busters which provide for positive ways to cope with stress.

1. Plan your time well

Keep a daily planner. Give priority to the most important activities and do them first. Break large demands into small, manageable parts. Work through one task at a time. Decide how much time you need for each job. Be careful not to over organise. Leave some room for flexibility and spontaneity.

Planning ahead helps you to complete the tasks you have prioritised. This allows you to have a sense of achievement for the tasks you have completed.

2. Be realistic about what you can do

Choose your work according to your own abilities and interests. Focus on what you can do and not for the impossible. Set goals that are achievable so you don't become frustrated or discouraged.

3. Spread out the major changes in your life

Give yourself time to adjust from one change to another. For example, avoid changing jobs, buying a car or a flat all at the same time.

4. Speak to someone about your problems

Seeking help is not a sign of weakness. Sharing your worries and concerns with your spouse, family, friend, supervisor or religious leader helps relieve your emotional burden and provides with you with emotional support. Try joining relevant support groups in your community. Call a helpline if you need to speak to a counsellor.

5. Interact with your family and friends

Family and friends are a key component of your life. They provide you with friendship, love and support in times of need. Set aside time each day to talk and relax together.

6. Learn to like yourself and think positive

Be happy with who you are. Keep a positive attitude and outlook in life. This helps you to accept what you cannot change and make the best of what you have.

Don't be overly concerned about your looks. If you are concerned about your weight, speak to your doctor or a nutritionist, who would be able to assess your weight status and give advice on weight management, if necessary.

7. Keep healthy

Keep your body healthy and fit by exercising regularly, eating wisely and getting enough sleep. Exercise provides stress relief. Engaging in regular physical activity releases endorphins which give you a natural "high". Eating a healthy and balanced diet based on the Healthy Diet Pyramid will provide the recommended level of nutrients needed to boost the immune system.

8. Make some time for yourself

Do something that you really enjoy. Take up a hobby like dancing, painting or a sport. Take a short break when you feel tense or tired. Get up and stretch, or take a short walk. When you return to your work, you can concentrate better.

9. Learn some relaxation techniques

Deep breathing exercises, meditation, massage and muscle relaxation techniques help to relieve stress.

More Stress Management Tips

Your Work Life

1. Be clear about your roles

Know your job scope and what is expected of you. If not, clarify with your supervisor. When working in a team, know each other's roles and responsibilities. Communicate regularly to ensure that the projects are on schedule. Delegate work, where appropriate

2. Prioritise your work

Plan a timeline for your projects. Start on projects that require immediate attention. Allow an additional 10% of your time for unforeseen circumstances.

3. Be realistic in what you can do

Start a job only when you can and have time to finish it. Similarly, do not take on new workload when you are up to your neck in work. Learn to say 'no' when necessary.

4. Plan your meeting and start on time

Set the objective and agenda for your meeting and request cooperation from team members to be punctual. This helps reduce time wasted discussing irrelevant issues and waiting for everyone to get started. The extra minutes saved can be spent on productive work.

5. Practice 'power' chat

Keep business telephone conversation brief and concise. Don't get into the habit of chatting too long which could affect your work productivity.

6. Counter negative thoughts

Watch out for negative thoughts at work. Stop worrying about how you appear to other people. Focus on your good qualities and accomplishments. Counter negative thoughts with positive affirmations such as "I can do it!". Add helpful reminders to your screen saver, such as, "Take a deep breath," or add a phrase or joke that makes you laugh.

7. Be fit and healthy

Join your workplace health programmes such as exercise classes, stress management courses or quit smoking programme, to keep healthy and fit.

Your personal life

1. Plan your household chores

Spread out the tasks that need to be done over the week. Avoid doing too many tasks in one day if you can. Prepare a list for grocery shopping so that you don't miss out on buying items that you need.

2. Plan your vacation

Plan your travel arrangement early and find out more about the place you are visiting (e.g. weather and road conditions, medical facilities, visitor's attractions, safety matters etc.).

Prepare a list of items you need to bring along:

  • important documents
  • medication (if applicable)
  • contact details in case of emergency

If you have pets, make arrangement for someone to take care of them, especially if you are away for an extended period of time.

3. Plan for festive periods or gatherings

List the people you would be visiting and plan your time. Write down a gift list and purchase the gifts in advance, if necessary.

If you are organising parties or social gatherings, prepare an invitation list and plan the menu. If necessary, make catering arrangement early.

4. Plan your childcare arrangement

Be aware of the facilities, programmes and deadline for infant / child care / schooling arrangements. For working adults with young children, there are infant / child care centres and before and after school care facilities that will help look after your children while you are at work. Find one that suits you.

5. Recognise the responsibility if you are caring for an elderly

Be aware of the demands when caring for an elderly, especially if they have a medical condition that requires regular medication and frequent visits to the clinics / rehabilitation centres. Modifications to the home environment, e.g. renovations can be made to provide a safer environment for the elderly.

Relaxation Techniques

Deep Breathing

Give yourself 5-10 minutes to do this exercise.

  1. Switch on some soft and relaxing music.
  2. Dim the lights, if you can.
  3. Sit down or lie down in a comfortable position.
  4. Close your eyes and place one hand on your stomach right above your waist.
  5. Take a deep breath slowly through your nose. Feel your stomach slowly rise up.
  6. Slowly breathe out, gently through your mouth.
  7. Focus on your breathing and feel the air moving in and out of your body.
  8. Repeat step 4 & 5 several times until you feel relaxed.
  9. When done, slowly open your eyes.

Visual Imagery

Give yourself 10-15 minutes to do this exercise. If you have more time, start with a deep breathing exercise, followed by a visual imagery exercise:

  1. Find a quiet comfortable place. Switch on some soft and relaxing music.
  2. Dim the lights.
  3. Sit on a comfortable chair or lie down.
  4. Close your eyes. Put aside all your worries and concerns for the moment.
  5. Breathe in slowly, steadily and deeply. Relax all your muscles and let your body go limp.
  6. Let your mind imagine a pleasant scene. Imagine that you are walking in a pathway lined with lush greenery, flowers in bloom and birds singing to you.
  7. Feel the cool fresh breeze around you. Take a deep breath, in and out.
  8. Imagine that at the end of the pathway, there are white, sandy beaches and the shiny pebbles lining the shore. Take a deep breath, in and out.
  9. Feel the smooth and cool pebbles. Take a deep breath, in and out
  10. Continue this visualisation until you feel very relaxed.
  11. Slowly count to 10 and you will come to a more alert, wakeful and refreshed mind.
  12. You can also choose to do this relaxation exercise using an audio-guided CD*.

Muscle Relaxation

It is recommended that you use an audio-guided CD* to do the muscle relaxation exercise. Give yourself about 20-30 minutes for this exercise.

  1. Find a quiet comfortable place. Switch on some soft and relaxing music.
  2. Sit on a comfortable chair or lie down.
  3. Gently close your eyes. Put aside all your worries and concerns to concentrate on relaxing your body.
  4. Breathe in slowly, steadily and deeply.
  5. Focus your attention to your hands and fingers. Clench your fists as tightly as you can and count to 10.
  6. Notice the pull of your hand muscles. Feel the tension. Then release the tension very slowly by letting your hands unfold as you count to 10.
  7. Feel the warm tingling sensation on your hands as you relax. Let the tension drain out of your hand.
  8. Repeat this exercise with any part of your body - face, head and neck, arms and shoulders, abdomen, buttocks, legs, feet and ankles. Refer to an audio-guided CD* for detailed instructions.

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