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As a teenager, your child is curious about sex and the intangible part of sex. They wonder about love and at the same time are urged by emotions, conflicted by values and pressured by peers
If you and your teenager have not talked much about sexuality issues before, there’s no better time than now to start. You hold the key to your family values so you need to decide how to impart them to your child. Just get talking. Your child does want to know what you think as a parent. But whether they agree with you or not is another matter. Be prepared that views may differ.
Share your thoughts, experiences and wisdom. Believe it or not, your children do want to know what you think as a parent. But, whether they agree with you or not, is another matter.
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It is important that your child understands issues such as love, infatuation, desire and attraction. Explain the difference between love and sex.
Infatuation, sexual attraction and desire are often mistaken for love. Teens get confused and assume that having sex is the same as ‘making love’. They mistakenly presume that being attracted to each other is the same as being ‘in love’. It is fueled by sexual desire and gratification, and it takes precedence over other aspects of the relationship.
Love is not just a feeling, it is a culmination of friendship, and takes time to grow and develop. It is a committed relationship, one that involves trust, support, and acceptance of each other’s shortcomings.
Forming New Friendships
Dating violence includes psychological or emotional aggression such as controlling behaviours or jealousy; physical violence, such as hitting or punching; and
sexual violence such as nonconsensual sexual activity or rape.
Your child can be a victim or the perpetrator of dating violence. Speak to your child and make sure he or she understands clearly what constitutes sexual violence and abuse. If you suspect your child has been abused, report it to the authorities immediately.
Teen dating can be healthy and safe if precautions are taken. Share these safe-dating tips with your teen to protect themselves against date rape or uncomfortable situations.
Teenagers should be encouraged to delay sexual activity for as long as possible. Abstinence is the only 100% effective method for avoiding unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted infections (STIs), including HIV/AIDS. However, even when your child has decided to practice abstinence, you should still need to provide accurate information about condoms in the event he or she changes his/her mind later.
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Help your child to understand that there may be long-term physical, emotional, social and legal consequences. It’s good to know these consequences so that you can engage in a meaningful discussion with your teenager.
There is the risk of contracting sexually transmitted infections (STIs)
including HIV/AIDS. Pregnancy has its own associated physical risks e.g. miscarriage, an onset of high-blood pressure, etc.
There can be feelings of guilt, fear, self-hatred, or pain of being taken advantage of and being used by the other party for sex. This can impact on the person’s self-esteem, and result in other risk-taking behaviours in future e.g. self-harm, smoking, alcohol or drug abuse, etc.
Hanging on to a soured relationship because of sexual involvement or marrying the wrong person because of an unplanned pregnancy are some consequences to think about.
Having sex with a girl below 16 years of age with or without her consent is illegal in Singapore. The guy can be charged in court and sentenced to either jail or caning (or both). Having sex with a girl below 14 years old with or without her consent is considered as statutory rape, and is an offense with jail-time or caning (or both) as punishment.
The law can also punish teenage parents who abandon their babies. They can be fined or jailed.
Engage in a discussion with your teenager on the facts, your feelings and controversies surrounding abortion. It is a sensitive issue. Individual views are influenced by religious convictions, personal values, or life experiences. Do not let the discussion turn into a debate or an attempt to challenge or change your child’s views.
Instead, use this as an opportunity to simply listen and talk.
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Of course, you will feel anger and disappointment. Stay calm and discuss all options with your child, whether to keep or to abort the pregnancy. Do take into account your family circumstances and values.
Sexually transmitted infections (STIs) are caused by viruses and bacteria during sexual contact through the exchange of bodily fluids such as semen, vaginal fluid, and blood. Not all STIs display obvious signs and symptoms. Hence infections can be spread unknowingly. If you suspect your teenager is at risk, do send him or her for a
Some of the sexually transmitted infections are:
Your teen may rebel, may not want to hear what you have to say, or he/she may disagree. But continue to make the effort to reach out. Cultivate trust; be honest and upfront about your views and decisions. And
always be present for them when they need help, or simply just to talk.
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This article was last reviewed on
Wednesday, May 8, 2019
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