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Coping With Change Can Be Stressful

Change is an inevitable part of our lives and not all people know how to cope with stress due to changes in a positive way. Instead of feeling overwhelmed by change, learn to prepare for it.

Major life events can be stressful, whether you are starting a new job, getting a promotion, or having a baby. You may feel overwhelmed if you do not have the skills to manage stress during stressful events. This stress, if not managed well, might affect your health.

3As Coping Strategy

One way to avoid being overwhelmed by life changes or stressful situations is to prepare for it. Here are three As to help you take control of, and ace, those major changes.


Young woman writing in a journal as a way to cope with stress.

Know when to expect these life changes and be prepared for them. This way, you won’t be caught off guard and thrown into last-minute panic.

Say you are starting a new job in a few weeks’ time. Naturally, you will want to show your new co-workers and the big boss what you are capable of.

Anticipate this change: acknowledge that you might be taking on bigger responsibilities and unfamiliar tasks. This could mean eating at your desk and working OT as you use your problem-solving skills to try to figure out how to tackle them.

Know what you are getting into and make plans to stay healthy. Perhaps plan to set aside some time every night to prepare a healthy packed lunch of wholegrains, veggies, and lean protein so you are not eating dabao (takeaway) chicken rice every day.

Carve out half an hour each evening for exercise. Tell yourself to make it a priority regardless of how busy you are at work. Exercise is a healthy coping mechanism and also improves our physical health and mental health.


Young newlywed couple coping with new changes together

Do your background research. Read up and talk to people who have been through what you are about to go through. Acquire the knowledge and skills you need in this next phase of life.

When you know what to expect and have the skills and tools to handle the change, you can better take control of the situation.

For example, if you are moving into your BTO flat with your spouse, you need to know what to expect, especially if you haven’t lived with another person before (other than your parents, that is).

Talk to your parents or in-laws about what to expect, and what to do. You could also attend marriage courses with your spouse.

You might face happy problems — living blissfully with your spouse might make you less motivated to go out and exercise, and more motivated to stay home and enjoy home-cooked feasts and late-night suppers.

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Talking to friends and family is an excellent active coping strategy.

You are not alone in dealing with these major changes! Find and surround yourself with people who can help and support you and share coping skills with you.

Planning a wedding? Gather your closest friends to help you with the many tasks so you are not overwhelmed by the wedding planning.

Getting a promotion and not sure what to expect? Ask your mentor or boss for advice. Call up friends and family members for a chat when you are feeling stressed and overwhelmed.

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